The more I work with survivors, the more I realise that to love them unconditionally and to be a friend is one of the most powerful healing experiences that I can offer. When I think of this last year and what it brought, not only has JIP grown but so have I as a therapist and as a human being. My whole world has changed! When I watched carols by candlelight, and saw families with their children cuddling into them as they wanted to share the wonder of Christmas. My heart was with survivors all over the world who were going to do it tough that night. Many who have never known the love and safety that those children were experiencing. My world now observes dates that had no meaning for me a little while ago, now I know has significance for those I help. Once I could look at a full moon and enjoy its glow, now I think of what will happen for some in the darkness of the night. So many things have changed my world can never be the same again. But I have seen the love of a little that knows I am a safe person and feel their need to be loved. To put my arms around them and feel their fear slip away, is a good feeling. To laugh with my friend as she shares some of the extremely humorous things that go on in the life of a multiple, is wonderful. I can laugh from deep within and still be chuckling as I think of what she said later that day. To encourage them to believe in themselves and to not let go of their dreams, is such a life giving thing to impart. To stand with them when they are fighting to survive is a privilege. They are sooooo courageous. To see their faith grow and to see the Lord answer their prayers is fantastic. To learn about myself as I walk with them, is such a humbling and maturing experience. They rewards for this journey are amazing, I get to see God do things the average Christian will not get to see. I get to see the rawness of human courage in the midst of adversity. I experience sheer joy in their achievements. And delight in their discoveries of life.
To all therapists reading this, be encouraged to not be afraid to step on to this path with the survivors. If you do you will experience a life of adventure and love. Love Mon
Thursday, January 03, 2008
The Strength Of Love & Friendship
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I think to be able to heal from the abuse of satanism there must be that love and friendship. Maybe victims of other forms of abuse can get through on their own, but this stuff takes a team.
I am so glad that you are there for JIP.
Sitting here reading this post the one thing that kept going through my mind, was wow how wonderful it is that JIP has the support, compassion, and empathy of such a great T. Thank you for the insight into your thoughts, thank you for sharing it with all of us.
Blessings.
Mysti
Hi Mon,
thanks for your post. I am not a therapist but I can wholehearted agree with you from a client perspective. I think for the client to be transformed, it ends up being a two-way thing and the therapist is ultimately transformed in some way too.
I never realised it until I changed therapists, but in the first instance I need (ed) someone to listen to me and care about me. To stand with me. I think maybe there are a lot of therapists that dont get that. Or want to spend their time thinking they should challenge you psychologically.
Anyway, thank God JIP has someone who does care and will stand with her.
And may God watch over you both.
Mon...as someone who is a therapist, (addictions) and more importantly as someone who has a therapist....I only wish I could have someone like you in my corner.
I no longer work with clients...but I also hope I helped them in some way. I know for sure that I felt an unconditional love and constant support of them.
Well done...and G-D bless you and JIP.
Laurie (Canada)
Dear Mon
That is an incredible post. We really do hope other T's read this, many , many T's.
Peace and blessings
Keepers
Wishing both of you luck in the new year.
To Rising Rainbow.
When survivors have known the extremes of evil. They need to experience the depth of unconditional love. To know there are those who will accept them as they are, and to believe in them to become the person they really want to become. To give them the chance they never had when they were a child. To stand up and defend them, when there was no one to do that for them, when their rights as a human being were being ripped from them. To speak up when many in the past silently stood by and did nothing. To have tenacity and determination to not give up on them. To have honesty and openness so trust is built. To walk humbly as they teach you their world. My life has been enriched by their trust and friendship. I am no longer ignorant to the depths of human depravity when controlled by evil.. But I have discovered the meaning of these words. LOVE NEVER FAILS. Thank you for your comments. Mon
To Mysti.
Thank you for your comments my above response to Rising Rainbow perhaps speaks abit more to what makes me tick! Mon
To Kathless.
Its not that therapists do not care for those that they help. But many get concerned when it comes down to the commitment and the time that is required to work with S.R.A. As one of my colleagues stated. "It is a call within a call." Many are called to help those who get damaged by life's journey. But few are prepared to walk the walk with survivors. Sometimes that is the fear of the unknown. Until you have walked the walk with a survivor, it is very much going on a very big learning curve. How could anyone in their greatest imagination understand the kind of journey that is going to be? But if they have the compassion and the courage to start the journey, they will discover not only the knowledge of the darkness, but the power of God and His love for the survivor, and even for the therapist as they allow Him to direct them in what to do. My faith has grown enormously as I have seen how He directs me and the answers to prayer, that are often instantly apparent. Thanks for your comment. Mon
To Laurie
You are one very special person in that you have had a heart to help others.
Every therapist I know became a therapist, because in dealing with their own painful experiences in life, it gives them understanding and love and compassion for others.
I pray you may discover the qualities you tried to give others in what you desire now you are also on your personal journey of healing. Blessings Mon
To Keepers
Your encouragement and support has been awesome! You are one special friend of JIP and myself. Thank you, thank you, for networking prayer support for us in a time of need. May you know many blessings for what you give to others, because you are a real blessing to us. Mon
To Cheesemeister
Thank you for your thoughts and support we need all the friends we can get to support us in this , as it is not something that we can do alone. Every encouraging word is like honey! thank you. Mon
Kahless said...
Hi Mon, Thanks for your comment in reply. I hear what you are saying and agree. Thanks for the insight.
I guess I was talking more generic therapy. And whilst it is your profession and I do not want to insult, because I see you are a committed and very good therapist, but not only from my own experience but also others in blogland, I wouldnt say all therapists care (they may be well meaning though.)
I had a therapist once who, aside from the fact that he forgot what we talked about from one week to the next, used knowledge of my vulnerabilities to 'kick me' (his words) because I upset him by asking if he was on my side.
Anyway my baggage I shouldnt bring here.
I think you and JIP are an awesome team and my thoughts and prayers follow you in your journey.
I must say that reading your journey is starting me to examine my own faith (in a good way.)
7:41 AM
keepers said...
This is how we all can survive and thrive, by doing all we can to help each other in whatever way we can at that particular moment. Peace and blessings and thank you for your kindness and support to JIP
Keepers
9:56 AM
Hi Kathless,
I am sorry you have been abused in the journey of seeking help. I am aware that not all therapists should be working with damaged people. Unless they can respect their confidentiality and respect them as a person. No mattter what they may feel personally. if I do any referrals, I need to know the other therapist personally and how they work if I am to trust them with very damaged people. I think those coming out of the occult have been through enough without falling into the hands of an abusive therapist, or worst still a therapist who works for the occult. The betrayal is devestating if that happens. I am encouraged that you are looking at your faith in a new light. he really is an awesome God and really, really loves those who have been wounded. May the Lord bless you. Mon
What a powerful statement, Mon. Thank you for writing it. I am not a therapist, but I know how much my life has been enriched by the survivors I know. They all inspire me, and they all open my heart as well.
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