Today we got a phone call from a friend who was very upset because another friend of ours had said some pretty hurtful things to her. Now im not sure what was said but the gist of it was this other person accusing this other friend of starting but never finishing anything or changing her mind etcetc etc. Want to know whats funny, this accusatory friend only ten minutes later called me not knowing i knew this altercation had occurred with the first friend and told me that this group she had started was stopping and the next one probably was also, both of which were were involved in. Even more wry is that her inconsistencies at running one of those groups was appalling at least twice in each month the group was cancelled due to her having one thing or another on.
The motto of the story cast the first stone only when you are sure you are clean from your own transgressions first. In other words make sure this isnt your issue coming forth for your own failings. Often we are fast to accuse someone else of something we ourselves are doing at the same time. Seeing the irritation in others is because its probably what we are doing and it confronting you, but as usual it is turned on other.
Do i know whats going to happen between these two hell no but we do know we are taking a sidestep and not discussing it,the other person doesnt even know we know anyway.
he who not sinned cast the first stone..... anyone not sinned around here lately? Oh i can think of one person who thinks they havent but perhaps better not say that here.
Or as one friend just said if i had a stone for every sin id sinned i could build me a castle
Deshanti
5 comments:
The only stones anyone should throw are those used in skipping stones across a lake
I think we could all build a castle from the stones of our sins! ;-)
I do hate being put in the middle of an argument. I don't like choosing sides. I try to remain neutral--which usually ends up with both parties mad at me!
I do not like being caught in the middle either
I think its good that you're stepping away from the drama. Doesn't sound like something you need to be involved in or take sides on.
I totally agree. Dont take sides.The accusatory friend is also hurt otherwise this would not have occured.
Your comments show a great deal of insight.
I think the truth will always come out and whether it is hurtful or not important to know.Sometimes it takes a little while to process constructively.
But this problem is between those two. You need to keep yourself safe. The plan set out for you by the church in conjunction with your new T is for that purpose. Let the two friend sort out their differences and dont jepardize your position.
big hugs
Purple room
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