Its been a week of us saying what we think to people who have hurt us.

over this last week we have been wondering when the payback might take place and in what form. You see in the cult there is never an action without a counter reaction. They dont like anyone speaking out against them so they tend to want revenge once you do. And last night came a response.

At 5.30 i received a phone call from me ex husbands mother. Now to give you a history over two years ago was the last time i talked to them or her. The last time we spoke i was told that i was a selfish bitch for leaving her son and that i was lucky tohave anyone put up with me for that long as everyone knew i was mentally unstable and he was a martyr for putting up with me so long. I hung up the phone in tears and wordless and ive never spoken to them ever since. They also stopped calling their own grand kids for their birthdays because they lived with me.

So imagine my surprise when she calls last night. I spoke as coldly as i could as she asked if id seen her son as he had failed to pick up the food she was cooking him for the week(yes thats right she still cooks for him and he lives at their holiday house virtually rent free). I said that i hadn't and that he was due to arrive at our house anytime to pick up kids and id call her back when and if he arrived.

Less than five minutes later he knocks at my door i say come in and he wont and the reason he wont is because he doesnt want me to smell the alcohol that hes consumed. I ask him how much hes had to drink, he says i havent been drinking, i ask again how much have you had to drink he says nothing i ask again how much have you had to drink and he says only a little bit. Im used to my ex lying hes done it for so long i dont think he even knows hes lying anymore. I then tell him hes not picking up my kids from day care in that state and he wont be having the children that night at all. He then gets back in his car drunk and wants to drive home. I remove the keys and tell him hes in no fit state to drive. At the same time i phone his father and say ive found your son hes drunk again attempting to pick up kids and behind the wheel of a car again. This was the first time they have known his drinking has reached this proportion so i leave his father talking to him on the phone and pick up my kids my daycare.

I arrive home to find my eight year old son bawling his eyes out, and my fourteen year old trying to calm him down. Apparently their father had come inside looking for his keys and frightened the living bejeebbies out of the eight year old as he was slurring his words and trying to look for his keys, as he was too drunk to remember id taken them. I then quickly phoned a friend and said this is an emergency can you please talk to my kids on the phone whilst i remove their drunken father from my premises. When i got home the eight year old was still sobbing a little bit but he was better. The others were upset but because they have seen him like this before they are now starting to call their dad names like liar, drunk, unreliable etc etc.

I then grab the phone and ring his parents. His mother answered and she said well its no wonder hes drinking he has the kids all the time. I went off i mena i went off, this is the lies hes been telling her, that hes been picking up the kids all the time, hes been driving them to their sporting places, he gets no time off because we demand him to look after them all the time and that im a drunk myself. So you can imagine my reaction, I told her that only her arrogance would dare assume what she thought she did or did not know about me after not talking to me for two years. That i have the children 12 out of 14 days a fortnight, that i get up at 5 am to get kids out of the house by 6.55 to get to before school care, i get o school at 8 to start my first class and often my day finishes barely in enough time to get them from after school care at 5.30, that as for drinking i have no time as im in bed by ten at night. I also told her that she was enabling his drinking by letting him fall to her when he was broke from spending his money on booze. I literally went off.

I also told her next time he arrived to pick up the kids drunk these were the consequences. I would let him get back in his car call the police who would meet him at after school care where they would arrest him and he would lose his licence and lave to sit in a cell to sober up. That I would not take the call to bail him out and that he would have to call them. his mother was silent at the other end of the phone. the penny had dropped. I then added because I was mad that i had loads of people willing to tell her the consequences on his drinking binges and whose phone number would she like first. She then went on to say well J and i are really sick we cant cope with this. i spat out oh im fucking sick of this you've been sick for ten years im over that bullshit no sympathy from this couch. Get your son in counselling and AA before he kills himself or someone else. She then very quietly almost like she was defeated said that our fourteen year old son had tried to tell them that his dad was drinking and that he was a compulsive liar as well, she then thanked me for being a good parent to the kids and that she would try and get him help. We said a mutual goodbye and i went strike two.!

As for the ex ive still got his keys and unless he can prove hes sober he aint gettin em back.

Marrikah and Angela

ps angela removed all my swear words LOL